Depression can make you feel really helpless. It throws you off balance. One morning you just wake up feeling different. You feel like something is wrong but you can’t put a finger on it. Suddenly you feel a little empty and directionless. Every decision becomes a debate and the daily routine starts seeming like a chore. You just want to lie in bed, trying to avoid the breathlessness and that sinking feeling. You don’t feel like making an effort. You don’t want to meet friends for you fear that someone will see through your mask into your soul that has already started to die. Depression feels like a tornado that sucks you into its eye before you can save yourself by holding on to something.
People wonder why a depressed person wants you to leave them alone. I will tell you why. They don’t want to hear things like “Chill!” and “Relax, it will be okay!” or “Stop being a cry baby, people have it much worse than you do!” Those are the things most people say. You know what it actually hurts to hear all that. It is as if they are expecting you to be okay by some miracle. There is no miracle. Fighting depression is not for the weak hearted, and it definitely takes a lot of effort. It is like a sword-fight. By the end, you are bruised and battered from the wounds, but you finally win because you are stronger and took a good shot at your rival called darkness.
All these people want is for you to sit next to them, even if it is in silence. They want someone to hold their hand. They don’t want sympathy. They want empathy. They want someone to be able to understand exactly how they feel. They want love and care. They want an anchor that will save them from the tornado. They want someone to make them believe in themselves again. They don’t want you to sit and wait around for them to be fine. They just want your hand. They don’t understand any of what they feel either…and they don’t want you to ask “why?” The moment you ask that question it makes them feel a bit ashamed. If they knew the answer would they have not solved it themselves?
When you find someone is depressed, just let them know that you will be there for them. Help them understand that it will all be over one day and there is hope. Help them get back on their feet again. After having seen multiple depressions, and having felt the desire to kill myself because that seemed like the easiest thing to do, I feel like it is our responsibility to help anyone who is feeling that way. Depressed people just need your support. One day they will be strong again, and you will be their saviour.